Thursday, September 23, 2010

Wet

The whole day has felt like the earth is drowning.

First, Minnesota is having torrential rains like I haven't seen since the great Iowa flood of 1993.  The marshland behind our house is filled to the brim.  Good foresight by our city, installing these retention marshes, kept my neighborhood from washing out.  The ducks are loving it.

The second source of water was my eyes, and the eyes of my friends.  Our friend's funeral was today.  Only 49 years old and taken by Inflammatory Breast Cancer.   This particularly brutal form of breast cancer is supposed to be rare, but I personally know two women who have died from IBC in the last 3 years.

She was the center of her family, and leaves 3 kids including an 8-year-old.  We're all just crushed.  She was so vital, so full of energy and humor, so loved.

She was the organizer of my daughter's soccer team for years.  They have played together in summer leagues and school sports since they were about nine.  When your kids are grouped together like that,  you become like a family, parents too.  One of their team lost her Dad suddenly just two years ago - we miss him so.  This kind of grief is getting a little too familiar to these kids.  They were all there together, as were many of the boys team.  They know how to support a grieving friend - they've become quite good at it.  And they had a game tonight, but the field is flooded.

And frankly I feel far too young to be burying friends.

9 comments:

Lisa said...

Oh this hurts. Hugs to you, MnMom.

kirelimel said...

My heart goes out to you and your circle of friends. How sad.

Liberality said...

You ARE too young to be burying friends. Peace be with you.

Shan said...

I saw the obituary in the paper. There is very little more heartbreaking that a mother dying and leaving small children behind.

SkylersDad said...

I am so sorry for your loss.

Churlita said...

I am so sorry. What a horrible time for you. I hope things get better soon.

Mommy Lisa said...

We will have fun on Saturday - but before the fun starts you need an extra hug!

kirby said...

Too young, and yet the reality is that each and every one of us on earth could be gone tomorrow. Sorry for your loss.

Johnny Yen said...

I'm sorry for your loss. As you know, I buried a friend four years ago on what would have been his 43rd birthday. It just feels very, very wrong.